In “If We Only Knew: Betrothed, Betrayed, Bewildered, Blessed,” Nancy Wang and Robert Kikuchi-Yngojo of Eth-Noh-Tec hang out all the dirty laundry that Asians aren’t supposed to talk about – the betrayals and recoveries, the bewilderment and the blessings that they have found on their 40-year journey together as artists, as activists, and as husband and wife. Tune in on Thursday, Oct. 21 from 5 to 6:15 p.m.

Tickets are $14. Visit https://www.sfiaf.org/2021_eth_noh_tec.

A panel discussion “For Better and For Worse” will follow from 6:30-8 p.m. Ever wonder how couples manage to work together 24/7, for decades, successfully? Hear the nitty-gritty from four couples who make it work, literally. It should be fun, if not raucous and enlightening, if not lightning.

Panelists are Wang, Kikuchi-Yngojo, Donna Washington and David Klibanow, PJ and Roy Hirabayashi, Robin Flower and Libby McLaren and Judith Black. Tickets are $12. Visit https://www.sfiaf.org/2021_eth_noh_tec_and_friends.